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As a Black woman married to a white woman, I experience the complex dynamics of race and privilege in our relationship. My wife enjoys the safety and invisibility of whiteness, while I cannot escape the vulnerability of my Blackness in our racist society. This became starkly evident when we visited her family on an all-White

Healing Racial Ruptures with the Equality of the Imago Dialogue By Yael and Paula Becoming conscious of your racial identity is a process that cannot be explored in darkness and isolation. In our experience, the process of challenging the myths of white superiority (whiteness) and Black inferiority (Blackness) has tremendous healing effects and the potential

Racial Dialogues: Creating a Safe Place to Heal in Interracial Relationships By Yael and Paula People Heal When They Feel Seen and Heard My partner and I are aware that racism is systemic. Racism is a social and structural force that privileges whites over Blacks and people of color. As an interracial married couple, we realize that privilege

Healing Racialized Trauma and White Fragility in Interracial Relationships Posted on January 25, 2023 By Yael and Paula In Interracial Leave a comment I am a Black woman married for 13 years to a white woman who grew up in a middle-class, academic family which endowed her with all the safety and privileges of whiteness

There is no getting around this fact—there will be times when we will feel very skeptical, cynical or bleak about our marriage. We will also wonder why we got married. We will feel as though we made a disastrous mistake in tying our life to this person. Those moments won’t necessarily last, but they are

The thing that most people complain about in relationships is the lack of communication. We’re not sure it’s purely a lack of communication. We think what we are really saying is we don’t feel truly known in ways that make us feel cherished, close, connected and seen. Deep down many of us fear we are